tell me why im waiting for so long he doesnt give a fuck about me

It’s not up to you, though, to decide what he can give. You’re discounting what he’s said and trying to invalidate what he’s communicated because it doesn’t suit your view of things. ‘I love you, and of course, you can give me what I want’, you might proclaim.

All you’ll be doing is setting yourself up for a mighty big, painful fall. Also, don’t make the mistake of deciding that you will marginalise your own needs so that you can hang onto him. When a man says he cannot give you what you want, it’s a red flag and a sign to run in the other direction.ĭon’t make the mistake of millions of women by deciding that you know better. There’s nothing mysterious about what he’s saying – he’s giving you a heads up and a warning. He’s also wise enough to recognise that you want more than what is on offer. This man already knows his capacity or what he is prepared to give. I’m also not prepared to give you what you want so please stop wanting from me and move on.’

Here are the translations: When a man says ‘ I can’t give you what you want’ he’s saying ‘I can’t give you what you want. He’s also telling you who he is and trying to make you be real about him and the relationship so that you can opt out. He is giving you a chance to get out now while you can. It’s time to get out of the relationship and suffer the short-term pain for the long-term gain. It will bring you back down to earth with a bump. If you have boundaries, values, awareness about red flags and a reasonable level of self-esteem, a warning statement like this will make you very uncomfortable. When a man (or a woman) makes statements like this, these are what I call your golden opt-out moments or ‘windows of opportunity‘. “What does it mean when a man says ‘I can’t give you what you want’ or ‘I can’t be the man you need me to be’?” I have a gazillion questions in my inbox but this email jumped out at me: Tags: assclowns, betting on potential, emotional unavailability, fairy tales, Fallback Girls, red flags, super busy, The No Contact Rule, they haven't got time for a relationship

Tell me why im waiting for so long he doesnt give a fuck about me